“They Broke Up With Me The Next Day”: People Are Recalling When They Confessed Something And Their Partner Immediately Ended The Relationship
9. “I said while crying because he got angry with me at a restaurant: ‘I am sometimes afraid to tell you how I feel because I’m afraid of how you’ll react.’ And he said, ‘Well, that’s fucking pathetic.'”
“My partner had a habit of starting a convo by asking how I felt about something, then would criticize me for feeling what I felt. It always ended up being a debate about why I felt the way I did. It was never okay for me to feel sad, worried, scared, etc.
Over time, I started to feel anxious when he’d ask questions and purposely responded vaguely, or just straight up said that I didn’t feel comfortable sharing (which would incite anger or more judgment).
Eventually, my response became exactly that. A teary ‘I don’t know if I want to share because I’m worried about how you’ll react/respond,’ and his responses were along the lines of ‘that’s stupid,’ ‘you’re ridiculous,’ ‘don’t be an idiot,’ or ‘seriously?’
I don’t know if it’s because I got so used to it, or from being distracted by all the other bigger things in the relationship, but for some reason, I didn’t even notice that this was another bad thing until reading this comment. It was just…normal.”
11. “That the autism diagnosis I went for came back positive. ‘I can’t cope with that,’ she said. To be honest, she couldn’t even cope with the dishes either.”
“I don’t understand why people think getting a diagnosis immediately changes someone. They are the exact same person they were before the diagnosis.
They get diagnosed, and then treatment options open up, and they can then decide whether they want to pursue them or not.
I got diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder in 2015, and one of my friends suddenly became really distant as ‘she no longer felt safe around me.’ Girl, if I go manic, I’m going to be too preoccupied researching Pluto and the history of spiders to be violent.”
